Defining Your Dream

Posted on: April 16th, 2014 in Mindset by Pat Mesiti | 2 Comments

carRemember the movie, “The Truman Show”? Truman, played by Jim Carrey, was a man trapped in a reality show – only he didn’t know it. Everything about his life was fake and broadcast live for people to watch; only he was the only person who didn’t realize it was show.

His family, his job, his entire existence was contained within the set of the TV show. His reality was a facade, and was set up for him based on what the producers of the show wanted. If it rained, it was because the producers scripted it. The weather, his marriage – it was all narrowly defined by other people’s dreams. The climax of the movie happened when Truman did something unexpected and began to realize that things were very wrong in his world.

While many would deny it, there are millions of people today who live just like Truman – a life orchestrated by other people’s dreams. They follow their parents’ footsteps into a career that they don’t necessarily enjoy, marry someone who fits the family standard and start a life that they aren’t sure how to change. For these people, their parents are the directors, and they just read from the script they’re given at birth.

Other people live their life using a script written by their boss. They start out with a dream of their own, and it gets hijacked by their job. Trying to attain the success they desire, they become a slave to the office, and give the script writing over to their boss. Suddenly success is determined by their career they don’t even realize that they’re trapped. Or, even worse, they do realize it but they can’t find a way to escape.

Setting off on a journey without a destination in mind can lead to driving around in circles – never really knowing if you got to the right place. Before you can decide if you are living the dream, you have to define your dream – and it looks differently for everyone. Maybe your dream includes a cottage on the beach and countless hours to fish. Your dream may be a career as a professional athlete. Maybe a quiet life in the country with some farm animals and a garden are the epitome of success for you.

Begin your journey to success by defining what your dream looks like. It can help to start a dream journal – put your thoughts in writing so you can refer to them later as needed. Does your dream include fancy cars? Travel to exotic locations? Narrow down what success looks like – then you’ll know exactly when you’ve arrived. Be as specific as possible. If you want to visit every continent, pick out a location on each continent you want to go to. If your success measure is writing a best-selling novel, then start identifying the steps you need to make that happen.

Attending a Living the Dream Workshop can help you gain the skills to find your dream and start your journey. It’s never too late to break out of your personal Truman Show life and begin writing your own script.


Pat Mesiti is a best-selling author, coach and educator in the area of personal development. Having built some of Australia’s largest people-driven organisations, Pat understands the power of harnessing human potential. He has shared the stage with some of the world’s great business minds and has sold over millions of copies of his books and materials.


  1. Clayton Davis says:

    Changing the way of martial arts.

    A journey of 32 years that has had its massive ups & downs my dream is now reality….Full time Martial Arts Professional (9yrs).

    After seeking mentorship for several years outside of the martial arts industry (Tom Twerlliger, Arnie, Nikki Sixx to name a few) I was immediately attracted to Pat (not physically, no offence) after listening to him deliver his talk at the 21st Century FS, not knowing who he was when he introduced himself to me prior to his talk. Purchasing his Prosperity Pack and absorbing every morsel of it (even today) I was sparked with an idea for my teachings of Martial Arts.

    Still ongoing today, but well under way I have ditched the typical Martial Arts curriculum (based on patterns/sparring/stances/tournaments etc) and replaced it with programs of content, content based on real life challenges. I am not talking about the over advertised values of Integrity, Confidence, Perseverance etc, etc typically marketed by Martial Arts Schools.

    This content is broken down into sessions, session are broken down into lesson plans, lesson plans are broken down into sets and reps. The content is based around motivational talks & life challenges. I will take any given talk and match the talk itself with Martial Arts techniques/skills/fitness/Mindset.

    Some of the lesson plans I have created and presented to students (my adult students love them) are:
    Push & Stretch Yourself
    Dominant Image
    (Crisis)- Rising to your feet in the face of adversity
    (Money is a Stream)- Fitness must Flow everyday
    (Pay Attention)- Focus
    (Goal Setting) – The Journey of Achievement

    Pat Mesiti, thankyou. You have changed the way I see and teach Martial Arts. Rather than teaching students to use their head as a target(as in sparring),I teach them to use their head to set targets of prosperity, rather then teaching them to use their bodies as score boards for a beating and points accumulation, I teach them to train their body to adapt to action taking and accumulate life.

    Clayton Davis

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